How did your friendship end

Bye bye, BFF, when it's time to end a friendship

Some friendships dry up over time. Others remain, which does not necessarily mean that they fill us and are made for life. Which signs you have to say goodbye to your BFF and how best to do that.

We have this idea of ​​true friendship that lasts forever. Friends for life. But we change, develop, make mistakes and learn. And in doing so, we sometimes find that we have distanced ourselves from friends.

In the course of our lives, one or the other relationship is ended. So why should it be any different with friendships? Sometimes even the longest or most intense relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend ends. And maybe that's okay too.

Just as close friendships help us through difficult phases, support us and accompany us on our way, toxic friendships cause stress, cause us pain and gnaw at our self-image. Even if it may seem like a big loss, keeping a friend in your life who no longer makes you happy or even harms you is far worse. So - let go!

Signs of a toxic friendship:

  • You often feel down after spending time together.
  • You don't like how you act in the presence of your BFF.
  • You need to prepare mentally for this before you meet.
  • The friendship is very one-sided. Initiatives for activities come either from you or from the other person.
  • Your boyfriend or girlfriend makes you think badly about yourself or makes you feel insecure with their statements.
  • You'd rather do something with other friends than with this person and sometimes try to secretly exclude them from activities.
  • If other good friends have invited that person over, you'll find yourself annoying you with their presence. You think the event would be more enjoyable without her.

We have advice so that your friendship does not end in quarrels, unpleasant encounters, hurt feelings or a guilty conscience.

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4 ways you can end a friendship:

Fade out

1 This tactic is probably the most pleasant of the four ways to let go - provided you both want to end the friendship. With this method, you steadily reduce social contact until the friendship comes to a standstill on its own. For example, instead of making a phone call, you write, take more time to get back to you and answer with short answers and without any questions. This method usually happens on its own when you are no longer interested in each other.

The conversation

2 If the first option doesn't work or doesn't work, it's time for a serious discussion. As with ending a romantic relationship, it also makes sense to meet in person for a friendship.

Set yourself a goal in advance for the conversation with your boyfriend or girlfriend: Would you like to clarify a misunderstanding, discuss a point of contention or even break off contact completely? Talk about your feelings - especially if you have a toxic friendship - and don't try to criticize the behavior of the other person.

Remember that everyone changes and that once unanimous views can and may change.

Set a goal in advance for the conversation: Would you like to clear up a misunderstanding, discuss a point of contention or even end the friendship completely? Talk about your feelings - especially if you have a toxic friendship - and don't try to criticize the behavior of the other person.

Remember that everyone changes and that once unanimous views can and may change.

Take a break

3 If the conversation together shows that it is more a matter of miscommunication than a fundamental disagreement, the friendship may still have a chance. Taking a break now can help you come down, come back and see the relationship with new eyes. Time also helps to determine if you miss the other person in your life. Set yourself a time frame and ask your gut feeling about it.

Trust your gut feeling:

Immediate end

4 The conversation does not always go as desired and, especially in toxic relationships, there is often a lack of respect and respect for the other person's decision. The only thing that helps is to draw a clear line. Writing down your feelings and intentions can help you stick with your point of view during and after the conversation.

Time after that

Ending a friendship can be just as stressful and emotionally draining as ending a romantic relationship. It's normal to feel sad, angry, or frustrated afterwards. So do yourself good during this difficult time and take the time you need to get over the breakup.

Ideas what you can do now:

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